Helping you become the partners your relationship needs you to be
Creating the understanding, knowledge and skills that lead to lasting change.
Hi, I'm Paul
Twenty-plus years ago, I was struggling to make my relationship work. No matter what we tried, nothing seemed to create lasting change. It was a lonely and difficult time, living beside the person I’d chosen to spend my forever with.
My own experience of counselling inspired me to retrain as a psychotherapist and relationship therapist. For the past 15 years, I’ve worked with many couples whose relationships would have continued to struggle—or ended unnecessarily—without the right help being available.
How my approach is different
I work with you together, as individuals, helping each partner develop in ways that allow them to become the partner their relationship needs them to be. Together, you’ll develop the understanding, emotional connection, relationship knowledge and communication skills needed to create and protect the relationship you both want.
As a psychotherapist, this is where my training makes the difference. The Couples Counselling page explains how I help couples create lasting change.
The question I’m asked most often: Is it too late?
Not every relationship should survive, but that is very different from feeling you’ve run out of ideas because you no longer believe your partner can change.
Sometimes it’s the constant arguments, the long silences, the walking away, or feeling your partner no longer knows how to care for you. For others, it’s become like living with a flatmate. Sometimes it’s one big thing.
Whatever it is for you, how long you’ve been struggling is often far less important than beginning to understand what’s at the root of your difficulties and learning how to change it.
Time and again, I see couples who have struggled for years solve problems they believed were impossible. Not by fixing their old relationship, but by learning how to create a new one and becoming the partner their partner needs them to be.
Working together
I know change isn’t always easy. You’ll never be judged for finding it difficult or being emotional.
You’ll find me calm, friendly and easy to talk to. I take the trust you place in me seriously and will be actively involved in our work together—helping you understand what’s happening, sharing knowledge when it’s helpful, and guiding you each step of the way.
Taking the next step
You shouldn’t have to pay before knowing what it’s like to work together or whether I’m the right therapist for you.
You’re welcome to arrange an initial meeting, or call first if you’d prefer to talk through what’s bringing you here. There’s no pressure or obligation—I’ll be happy to make time for you.