Helping you become the partners your relationship needs you to be
Two partners, each able to give and protect what they have together
Hi, I'm Paul
Twenty-plus years ago, I was struggling to make my relationship work. No matter what we tried, nothing seemed to create lasting change. It was a lonely and difficult time, living beside the person I’d chosen to spend my forever with.
My own experience of counselling inspired me to retrain as a psychotherapist and relationship therapist. For the past 15 years, I’ve worked with many couples whose relationships would have continued to struggle—or ended unnecessarily—without the right help being available.
How my approach is different
It is rarely the case that both partners need exactly the same help. That’s why I work with you together, as individuals, helping each partner develop in ways that allow them to become the partner their relationship needs them to be.
Together, you’ll develop the understanding, emotional connection, relationship knowledge and communication skills needed to resolve the difficulties bringing you here, whether you’re dealing with a particular problem or need to make more fundamental changes to your relationship.
This is where my psychotherapy training makes the difference. The Couples Counselling page explains how I help couples create lasting change.
Why I know change is possible
Each week, I see couples arrive unsure whether things can change, then feel relief as they begin to realise they can solve problems they once thought were impossible, and feel their relationship heal and reconnect.
- People can only do what they currently know how to do.
- Most of what keeps couples stuck happens outside their awareness.
- Once we’re emotionally triggered, we lose the ability to think clearly and respond in the way we’d like.
- When understanding and skills change, the relationship changes.
- How long you’ve struggled is no indication of the outcome.
These simple principles shape the way I work with every couple.
Working together
I’m sensitive to the fact that by the time couples seek help, they often feel frustrated, exhausted and unsure about what the future holds. Yes, our work together can be hard at times, but you’ll never be judged for struggling or finding it emotional.
I’m calm, friendly and easy to talk to. I also take the trust you place in me seriously and will be actively involved throughout our work together, supporting and guiding you every step of the way.
Taking the next step
You won’t have to pay anything before knowing what it’s like to work together or before deciding I’m the right therapist for you, and that you wish to continue.
You’re welcome to arrange an initial meeting, or call first if you’d prefer to talk through what’s bringing you here. There’s no pressure or obligation—I’ll be happy to make time for you.