Helping you become the partners your relationship needs you to be
Everything we do is about lasting change.
Hi, I'm Paul
Twenty-plus years ago I was struggling to make my relationship work. No matter what we tried, nothing seemed to create lasting change. It was a lonely and difficult time, living beside the person I’d chosen to spend my forever with.
My own experience of counselling inspired me to retrain as a psychotherapist and relationship therapist. For the past 15 years, I’ve worked with far too many couples whose relationships would have continued to struggle—or ended unnecessarily—because the right help wasn’t available.
How Change Happens
Relationships don’t change simply because couples try harder. They change when both partners develop the understanding, knowledge and skills that healthy relationships rely on.
Together, you’ll learn to communicate, understand each other emotionally, understand what your relationship needs and how to give it, and resolve problems before they create distance between you.
You’ll always know what we’re working towards and how to keep making progress, both in sessions and at home.
Why My Approach Can Help
Many couples come to me believing they’ve already tried everything. Often, it’s not because they haven’t tried hard enough, but because they’ve never been helped to understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.
My training and experience as a psychotherapist are central to how I work. They allow me to help each partner understand the deeper thoughts, feelings and patterns they bring into the relationship, rather than simply focusing on what’s happening on the surface. This deeper understanding, combined with practical relationship therapy, is what makes lasting change possible.
How long you’ve been struggling is often far less important than understanding what’s really happening. Once you can see what’s been keeping you stuck, lasting change becomes possible.
Working Together
I know change isn’t always easy. You’ll never be judged for finding it difficult or being emotional.
You’ll find me calm, friendly and easy to talk to. Behind that is a therapist who is compassionate, thinks deeply, takes the trust you place in me seriously, and is actively involved in sessions, guiding you when helpful, sharing knowledge, helping you understand what’s happening, and beginning to create the changes you want in the room.
Taking the Next Step
You shouldn’t have to pay before knowing what it’s like to work together, whether I’m the right therapist for you, or whether you’d like to continue.
That’s why you’re always welcome to arrange an initial meeting. If you’d prefer, you’re equally welcome to call first with any questions or simply to talk through what’s been bringing you here. There’s no pressure or obligation—I’ll be happy to make time for you.