Couples Psychotherapy for Croydon
Experienced psychotherapy for couples who want to change what keeps going wrong
Hi, I'm Paul
Before I became a psychotherapist, I needed help with my own relationship. More than 20 years ago, we were struggling and nothing we tried seemed to create lasting change. I know what it is like to love someone and still feel unable to change what is happening between you.
The counselling I received made such a difference that I eventually retrained as a psychotherapist and specialised in couples work. I have now worked exclusively with couples for the past 15 years.
I still remember what it felt like to need help myself. Today I work with couples from Croydon at my practice in Caterham and online.
Changing what keeps creating the difficulties
I want therapy to make a tangible difference to your lives. That includes how you feel, how you communicate, how you behave with each other and how you understand yourselves and your relationship.
I won’t sit back and leave you to work it out alone. I’m actively involved, helping you see what is happening between you, supporting you as you try different responses and giving you practical guidance you can use outside our sessions.
We don’t just work on managing the problems. We work on changing what keeps creating them.
What you can expect from me
It can take a lot to sit down with someone you don’t know and talk about your relationship. I remember feeling afraid and uncertain when I first went to counselling, and I never forget what coming to see me might feel like for you.
You’ll find me calm, patient and compassionate. Kindness, respect and dignity matter to me, and I won’t judge either partner or take sides. We all have moments we regret. I certainly did.
At the same time, I won’t avoid what needs to be talked about. I’ll help you through difficult conversations at a pace you can manage, without losing opportunities to make progress.
There can be a way forward
I regularly see couples arrive believing they may have left things too late, then begin to make changes they had thought were beyond them.
I’ve seen relationships that had felt dead for years become alive again and couples finally resolve difficulties they had returned to again and again. Because therapy changed so much for me, I care deeply about helping it make a real difference for you.
My hope is that you eventually leave not only having resolved the problems that brought you here, but knowing how to face future difficulties together without needing outside help.
Find out more
If you’d simply like to ask a question, find out more or talk things through, you’re very welcome to call me. I’ll always make time for you, you won’t feel rushed and you don’t have to decide anything.
If you’d prefer to find out more first, you can read about how I work with couples, my background, what you can expect from counselling and how to get started.
You don’t have to know what you want to do next. Sometimes a conversation can help you work that out.
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